How many of us can honestly say we have never experienced Regret!
Regret is a normal feeling but, at times people will hold on to regret unknowingly which allows life to rob you blindly. Regret deprives you of your ability to learn from your past and your ability to move forward. Regret is the enemy of progress and the friend of delay and stagnation. Regret recollects all the past and punishes self every time the thought is recollected, instead of understanding that regret is simply a lie. It no longer exists unless we give it the power to have existence in our future. Regret forgets any form of grace, robs confidence, takes courage, takes from learning from the past, is a form of pride, steals hope, and is simply unapologetic.
6 points to think yourself out of Regret!
· Genuinely apologize and forgive YOU, even if others have not!
Regret and resentment keep you a prisoner of negative thoughts and emotions. Remember that those that may have been hurt in the situation may still need time to heal.
· How are you benefitting from punishing yourself?
Self-punishment spirals and causes one to never be ok with your past. Self-punishment never ends! You past is your past and cannot be erased or reversed.
· Catch the negative self-talk in the moment!
Notice what you say to yourself, statements like “I am stupid,” “Nothing works for me,” “l have made so many mistakes!!” Everything begins in the mind and if you allow your mind to take control there will never be change in your life. Replace all negative self-talk with positivity until you believe it.
· Knowing your regret triggers!
Do certain people, situations, or memories trigger the negative self-talk? Know your Trigger points and be aware when you’re in a triggering environment, either remove yourself or prepare yourself.
· Accept that humans are imperfect creatures!
We all make mistakes and we will never be a perfect people. Perfect people just don’t exist, once you accept this you will be more forgiving of yourself and the people around you.
· Come up with a new plan!
The last plan, relationship, goal, career or etc. may not have worked. Maybe you have yourself stuck in a situation that is detrimental to your mental and physical health. Know that there is always a way out and a new plan. Nothing lasts forever! Always give yourself permission to move on and rediscover yourself!
Remember self punishment caused by regret, is a DEBT that can never be paid!
